Why you DON’T want a doula who will stay by your side not matter what

This is a big selling point for many doulas: “No matter how long your birth is, no matter what day it is or what’s going on my life, I’m going to be by your side from the start of active labor through the first couple of hours postpartum.” I get the appeal – That soundsContinue reading “Why you DON’T want a doula who will stay by your side not matter what”

What Breastfeeding for 2 Years Looks Like

Consider this: Many parents will spend more months breastfeeding than they spend being pregnant. It shouldn’t come as a shock; breastfeeding for two years or longer is a well known recommendation from the World Health Organization. But, when you’re still pregnant, it’s hard to wrap your head around the reality of two years of breastfeeding.Continue reading “What Breastfeeding for 2 Years Looks Like”

How to Talk so your Doctor will Listen

As a doula, one of the most valuable skills I offer my clients is facilitating effective communication with their doctors. That means when the doctor leaves the room, my clients aren’t thinking to themselves “Darn, I forgot to ask about _______!” It means my clients don’t tell themselves things like “I was going to bringContinue reading “How to Talk so your Doctor will Listen”

Gestational Diabetes is Not a Failure

Let’s talk for a minute about gestational diabetes. (And by “talk,” I mean “I write, you read.”) Gestational diabetes is high blood sugar (also called hyperglycemia) during pregnancy, and it occurs in up to 10% of pregnancies in the United States. It can cause the developing baby to grow larger than they otherwise would. ItContinue reading “Gestational Diabetes is Not a Failure”

The Toxic Myth of “Getting Your Body Back”

You know what I wish? I wish that postpartum parents and the people who love them would abandon the notion of “getting your pre-pregnancy body back.” Just forget about it! Not because postpartum parents can’t be fit, strong, healthy, beautiful, and sexy. Rather, because the idea of going back to before your experience of birthContinue reading “The Toxic Myth of “Getting Your Body Back””

A healthy mom and baby is NOT all that matters!

If you’ve heard even just a handful of birth stories, this probably sounds familiar: “Mom and baby are both healthy, and that’s all that matters.” If you’ve been pregnant yourself, you may have heard people say that your health and the baby’s are all you need to worry about. And if you’re like me, hearingContinue reading “A healthy mom and baby is NOT all that matters!”

What is a birth plan? Do I need one?

It’s not rocket science: a birth plan is your plan for how you want your birth to go. It’s kind of a like a wedding plan or dinner party plan, except you have a lot less control over what actually happens. So do you even need one? I think there’s an easy way to tell.Continue reading “What is a birth plan? Do I need one?”